During our last conversation, I shared with you that I’m a fan of Dr. Phil’s cogent advice. And I quoted him as saying:
“Winners do things losers don’t want to. Winners are willing to take a risk; they’re not reckless, but they are willing to take a risk. And the biggest risk of all is admitting that what you have is not what you want.”Dr. Phil
I touched a nerve, judging from the feedback. Most interesting was a note from a colleague and friend who told me he appreciated the chance to self-evaluate. He went on to write that we all want short and simple answers to longer term and more complex problems. We want someone to tell us what to do, how to do it, and then to help us do it. And then he said:
“Unfortunately, I realize that in golf, tennis, baseball, singing, debate, crocheting, parenting, religion or whatever the task or challenge, it is ok or actually good to have a coach, but only you can swing at the ball. As a coach in my own little world, it seems easier to see the potential in others than in yourself. Inspiration and motivation can come as a pat on the back or kick in the butt, and they each have a 50/50 chance of being the key to cranking that engine in all of us.”
I think what he said is true. Coaching is valuable, but only you can enter the batters box and swing at the ball. Only you can run the laps, only you can do the practice drills, only you can try again.
My experience in coaching and mentoring others is that most of us don’t fail. Instead, we don’t try – or at least we don’t try as if success matters, giving it everything we have over and over until we achieve what we desire.
Somewhere in your heart or your head, there is a dream, a desire unfulfilled. If you need a coach to help you, go get one. But most importantly, step up to the plate and decide that you are going to take as many pitches as required to connect with the ball and hit it true. Don’t quit, don’t hesitate. Step up.
And let us hear from you.